How to Get Along With Your Ex

    Divorced parents seem to sometimes be stuck in a time warp. Throughout their marriage, they will have shared many experiences, some happy, and some not. But for many the last and only thing each remembers about the other is the angry, hurt and often irrational behavior, which occurred at the time of the divorce.
    The divorce memories, along with being unpleasant, are often severely distorted because those memories were gathered and stored during an intensely emotional time. No one is able to process information accurately or objectively when emotions run high.
    In spite of the fact that both parents' behavior during the divorce process likely was exaggerated and uncharacteristic and in spite of the fact that each parent's perceptions of the other's behavior likely are inaccurately twisted, both parents often continue to interact with one another as though that information is complete, reliable and unchangeable.
    If divorced parents choose to interact with one another in a respectful and dignified way, their children will benefit. The children will not need to divert time and energy from school and the other tasks of growing-up to trying to fix or avoid their parents' fights. The children will learn to treat others with courtesy, and the children will learn valuable conflict resolution skills.
    Parents who follow this plan are often pleasantly surprised to learn they can actually work with their "ex" without blood pressures going through the roof, and they are able to re-learn that their "ex" does have some good qualities.

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